Sessions for individuals to increase somatic awareness and access to pleasure is the most common root service that I provide as a Somatic and Intimacy Educator. It was through attending individual sessions with a somatic sex education practitioner that I experienced a transformation with my sex life. In those sessions, I learned how to tap into my own body wisdom and access more sexual pleasure and healing.
Sessions for individuals to increase comfort and skill development in intimate relationships is the root service that I provide as well as a surrogate partner. This service is the gold star of services to affect permanent change for those impacted by current barriers to achieving successful romantic relationships. In these sessions, I act as a temporary partner and clients receive the teachings and practice of actually being in relationship with me. Individual sessions with the partnering therapist run concurrently, with the surrogate partner sessions, and help the client to integrate the learning that can affect permanent changes to relationship patterns.
Intake Process
I invite new Somatic and Intimacy Education and Dating Coaching clients to complete a detailed intake process and intake form to ensure they fully understand the service and to ensure my service is suited to their individualized needs and expectations. It also provides valuable information for me about the client’s goals and about their sexual and medical history.
My guidelines for ethical practice are outlined in my intake form. New clients are asked to acknowledge and agree to these practice guidelines and also to indicate their intent and consent to receive erotic bodywork in their sessions.
The intake process also serves as an initial period of engagement for myself and my client to become more familiar and at ease with each other. It lays the initial foundation for our work together. The electronic intake form is posted on my website. It must be completed and sent to me prior to booking the first session so I have time to review the information. The intake process for Surrogate Partner Therapy is different from that of Somatic and Intimacy Education.
For Surrogate Partner Therapy, clients can contact me directly or have their therapist reach out to begin the intake process. Typically, this involves clear communication between myself, the client, and their therapist to ensure a triadic model of care. If a client does not already have a therapist, I can assist in finding one who is willing to work with us in this therapeutic approach. This collaboration ensures that the client receives the most comprehensive care as they navigate the process of healing and growth in intimacy.
Session Openings
First sessions begin with an initial engagement period between myself and my client to help us connect with ease and establish a rapport for our work together. We review the intake form and discuss client intentions or goals for the session. We also review respective client and practitioner agreements governing the session.
Clients choose at the beginning of every session whether they want a talk-based session only or a combined talk-based and body-based session that includes bodywork. If the client chooses bodywork, they also choose upfront between touch that is erotic or touch that is not erotic. I offer a holistic array of touch types; such as touch that is relaxing, comforting, connecting, loving and erotically pleasurable.
This is followed with mindfulness and relaxation exercises to create an open heart-space and sense of presence to support learning and pleasure experiences.
With heart-space open, I invite an open discussion with clients about identifying power dynamics or naming any differences and potential fears, hesitations, or objections to our working together in this way. Just by naming the issues or dynamics, and giving them transparency and open space for discussion, seems to clear the way. This exercise results in a more relaxed and free-flowing session uncluttered with unspoken and unresolved issues that could interfere with the full learning and pleasure experience in the session.
In sessions, clients can choose to be fully clothed or fully undressed, or somewhere in between. I coach clients to embrace and mobilize their own inherent creative life-force erotic energy for their own pleasure and/or healing through a range of gentle somatic practices and exercises.
This is offered through talk-based coaching or touch-based bodywork depending on client’s choice of approach. When bodywork is chosen, the touch given can be provided by me or I can be witness to self-touch for and by the client. If bodywork is chosen for on-line sessions, I guide and support a client’s self-touch either on or off camera, based on the client’s choice.
In-Person Bodywork Sessions
MY PROFESSIONAL CODE OF CONDUCT AND STANDARDS FOR ETHICAL PRACTICE:
I adhere to the standard practice guidelines for my modality. In-person or online sessions can involve talk-based sex and intimacy coaching only, aka ‘Talk Sessions’. Or in-person or online sessions can also involve sex and intimacy coaching and include specific kinds of non-erotic or erotic touch for educational purposes, aka Talk and Touch Sessions. Clients decide upon start of session, what type of session they choose to have, a Talk-Only Session or a Talk and Touch Session.
Touch sessions, when chosen, can create a simulated sex and intimacy laboratory where my clients sexual energy is welcomed and invited to come out and play. I focus on experiential learning, healing and pleasure experiences for my clients, and not for me. I stay fully dressed at all times. Clients can choose their state of dress or undress.
All erotic touch is one way only from me to my clients. Clients do not touch me erotically. I do not engage in other forms of sexual contact with my clients, only touch-based. I permit clients to touch me for learning, grounding and energy exchange purposes only, but not for sexual purposes. This establishes clear, predictable and safe professional boundaries for clients to relax and lean into my offerings. Clients can experiment, learn and practice new sex and intimacy skills within the safe parameters and cocoon of this professional practice. I do not engage in a personal sexual relationship with my clients outside of session work with them.
My studio is located in central Winnipeg; the address is provided after booking. I communicate with clients via email only. For professional reasons, questions or discussions about personal or sexual matters occur within booked sessions only, and not via email or text. When we meet in person, space is made to welcome your questions or discuss other personal and private matters.
I guide clients in somatic exercises designed to support them with self-identified sex and intimacy concerns such as: loneliness, shyness, social isolation, inexperience, touch deprivation, touch phobia, sexual shame and repression, sexless relationships, low libido, painful sex, pelvic pain, arousal or orgasm difficulties, excessive porn use, sex addiction, sexual trauma or other sex and intimacy concerns. There are several different kinds of somatic exercises in our toolbox that are useful for each of these concerns. Some involve touch, others do not, but all of them are exercises designed to increase sensate focus and somatic awareness. All somatic exercises are intended to build capacity and confidence in the client’s inner awareness and knowing about their body wisdom. Body wisdom informs their needs and desires in order to access more pleasure. Body wisdom informs their needs and desires in order to access to more healing.
I support clients to experiment with elements like breath, movement, sounds, sensations, smells and several other inquiries to discover new ways to access more somatic awareness, sexual pleasure, and sexual healing in their life.
Access to expanded erotic pleasure, orgasms with increased intensity and connection to sacred sexuality via ecstatic trance states is possible as clients learn to know their own desires better. And sexual pleasure and healing is expanded as clients tap more into the wisdom of their body in a safe shame-free environment.
All of the somatic exercises and approaches outlined here are utilized with both modalities, Somatic and Intimacy Education and Surrogate Partner Therapy sessions, however in Surrogate Partner Therapy sessions there is also greater ongoing collaboration with the partnering therapist. Additionally the exercises are also geared more towards the development and practice of intimate relationship skills by use of the temporary intimate relationship that develops between the client and myself.
On-line Sessions
On-line sessions can include bodywork too if chosen at the beginning of the session. Clients are guided and witnessed in self-touch. Self touch and witnessing are also useful somatic approaches that offer erotic pleasure and healing for clients. My standard practice guidelines are also applicable to online sessions.
Session Closings
Space is left at close of the session for quiet savouring time, emotional after-care and discussion time for reflection about the session. The session ends with closing the connections between us and discussing thoughts about potential next steps.
Somatic and Intimacy Education clients may attend one session only, although not preferred. For deeper work together that affects the most lasting changes and benefits to clients, attending a series of sessions is recommended.
Surrogate Partner Therapy clients attend regular sessions over a matter of months as agreed upon in the therapy plan as set out by the triadic model team.
I offer home practice suggestions and referrals to other resources and allied professionals to support client’s self-identified goals for increased somatic awareness, sexual pleasure, and sexual healing.
Follow-up Aftercare
I follow-up with my Somatic and Intimacy Education clients by sending out a monthly email practice update that informs clients about my new trainings, service offerings or developments of interest to them. With my regular clients where I have formed longer-term connections, I may follow up with a personal email if I have reason to do so such as if I have a concern about them or if come across a resource or information that I think might be helpful to them. Receiving this monthly email practice update is optional.
With my Surrogate Partner Therapy clients, my follow-up, or between session contact with clients and with their therapist, is discussed and determined in the course of the therapy plan.
Session Location
Given ready access to new technology and video-meeting platforms, I can see English-speaking clients from anywhere in the world for on-line sessions. For in-person sessions, I have practice and workshop space options at various locations in Winnipeg, Manitoba, Canada. I offer home visits or meetings at alternative locations to accommodate persons with disabilities or other special needs.
For Persons with Disabilities
For clients with disabilities that have specific accommodation needs, please discuss your accessibility needs with me via email contact. I will try my best to accommodate the accessibility needs of persons with disabilities.
Session Types and Rates and Booking Instructions
My Session Types and Rates
My flat rate is $125 an hour payable by cash, cheque, bank transfer or e-transfer.
Talk-Only In-Person or Video-Chat Discovery Sessions: One hour for $1oo.
This is the starting point for all clients to discover if you want to work with me. We will meet face to face either in person or via video-chat.. You will learn more about me, my modality and get a feel if you are inclined to work with me. You can ask any questions about me and my practice. You can receive sex and intimacy consultation and coaching in this hour. Talk-only sessions do not include bodywork.
Talk-Only In-Person or Video-Chat Sessions: One hour for $125
Some clients choose talk-based-only sex and intimacy coaching in their session work with me. These sessions involve somatic coaching, providing sex education information and consultation and does not include somatic hands-on touch or bodywork.
Talk and Touch In-Person or Video-Chat Regular Sessions: 2 hours for $250.
Talk and touch regular sessions include sex and intimacy coaching and bodywork. I recommend that these regular sessions be booked for two hours for the best benefit to clients. Video-Chat sessions involve bodywork that is guided self-touch.
1.5 Hour Four-Handed Erotic Massage
For those bi-curious or wanting more intensive sensation with two persons massaging them at one time, I offer a four-handed erotic massage with a male colleague ($400)
1.5 Hour Couples Erotic Massage
For couples wishing to get more embodiment practice together or just want to spice up their sex life a little, I offer couples massage with a male or female colleague ($400)
Surrogacy Sessions: Surrogacy sessions are a minimum of three hours per session and the cost will be discussed with each client.
Session Frequency
I prefer to work with clients open to attending a series of sessions rather than a one-off session, but all clients start out with a one-hour discovery session for us to get to know each other. It takes time and commitment to embody more permanent changes you wish to make to sustain the sex and intimacy skills that are learned in sessions and therefore a series of sessions results in the best benefit to my clients.
Other Options
Inquire about a monthly rate for longer-term engagement in an intimacy skill development program utilizing our client/practitioner relationship as the training ground.
Inquire about a sliding scale rate for those affected by low income.
Inquire about rates for training for groups.
Payable by cash, cheque, or e-transfer.
My Booking Information
Submit a completed intake form. You can disclose as much, or as little information as you wish about yourself, in the intake form. All personal information submitted in the intake form and other correspondence with me is kept strictly confidential.
I will review your intake information and send you an email to verify that your intake is received and reviewed.
Have More Questions? Book a Session To Learn More
I do not respond to questions via email. A wealth of information is provided here. And you can conduct an Internet search for ‘Somatic Sex Education’ for more information.
If you are ready, the best way to learn more about my practice is to book a two-hour in-person talk and touch session.
Alternately, you can book an in-person one hour talk-only Discovery Session to ask all your questions.
Or, you can start by receiving sex and intimacy coaching or dating coaching using strictly a talk-based approach, by booking a one-hour session session. This type of session does not include the use of touch. It involves traditional coaching where practical guidance is offered to increase access to intimacy and sexual pleasure and healing in your life or to help create more success for yourself in the dating world.
To book a session with me, for either the one-hour talk only session or a talk and touch session for one, 1.5 or two hours, you first need to submit a completed electronic intake form. Here you can provide as much, or as little information, as you wish. The information you post on the intake form is held strictly confidential. The privacy of your personal information is honoured when you access my services.
Experience a Vitality Boost
It is my hope that clients will experience an awakening or boost to their erotic life-force energy with individual sessions. And a pathway to greater vitality, pleasure, and happiness in their life and intimate relationships generally. This was my experience as a client of somatic sex education practice after attending a series of sessions with a practitioner. The following year, I returned for more individual sessions. Learning how to be pleasure focused has brought me more vitality in all areas of my life, including and far beyond the sexual realm.
Booking Reminder
Please complete and submit the Intake Form .
To book with me, contact SSESConfidentialBkgMngr@protonmail.com